From Chaos to Calm & Confidence is a Transformation Tribe Coaching program for professional and entrepreneurial moms who want to learn tools and strategies to bring more peace into their home, as well as learn how to be more confident, centered, and conscious in their parenting.
Are you tired of the chaos to get out the door in the morning?
Do you struggle with the bedtime routine and despite all your best efforts you find yourself yelling at your children?
Do you want more peace and calm in your home but just don’t know what to do?
If you answered yes to any of these questions then From Chaos to Calm & Confidence is for you!
I know your heart longs for more peace in your parenting…You want to feel more calm, confident, centered and conscious all the while balancing your professional and business goals. You yearn for more connection with your children and want to find new ways to engage with them. But, despite everything you have tried you find yourself in the same broken cycle of yelling, feeling bad, trying to make up for it, and back to raising your voice.You hate arriving to work after a big blow out at home because you feel horrible for what happened and it’s going to be a struggle to give 100% to your clients and staff. You feel overworked, exhausted and have a family, as well as clients who count on you and you, feel drained, and creativity is lagging. You want and need it to stop!You want to feel…
More confident, in control and empowered in your parenting
More centered, grounded and present with your children
More energy and vitality at home and the office
More freedom to be fun and playful
More inflow at home and work
And most of all…
You want to feel calmer and more connected with your children
The problem is:
You’ve been trying to stop yelling without really understanding why it happens in the first place. Yelling is a reaction to either unmet needs, expectations, or boundary violations. Many of these are unconscious to you; you aren’t even aware that you have them!
Are trying sticker charts or other motivational techniques to get things done at home but they don’t work long-term and leave you feeling frustrated?
Offer incentives and other treats to get your children out the door in the morning, but you feel like you’re bribing and not parenting them?
Read countless parenting books to find the right tools to use, but you don’t feel calmer?
Try counting to ten or do breathing exercises to keep your cool and not explode, but you do anyway?
Walk away from the situation to collect yourself, only to come back to more chaos?
If you feel frustrated with how you react to your children, exhausted from all the things you have tried, and want more peace in your life, it’s time for a transformation.
Let’s set up your parenting to end the shame, reduce the yelling and help you feel more CALM, CONFIDENT and GROUNDED!
I’ve been there, I know…
Mom, take a deep breath…
I know you’re doing the best you can each moment
You don’t have to feel like a ‘bad’ mom anymore
You can stop worrying and stressing about your parenting
My name is Nicki Paulun, and I’m here to help you transform yourself into the mom you want to be!
As a certified Integral Professional Life Coach™ and author of the bestselling book Unlock Your Parenting Potential: The Key to More Joy, Peace, and Connection, I help professional moms transform their parenting and bring more balance into their working lives in a powerful way.
I know what you’re going through right now.
I hated it when the last thing my children experienced before drop off at school was me yelling at them. Sadly, yelling was the only tool I had to get my needs met (which often didn’t even happen), express my frustration, and get my children to do things my way, whether it was trying to get out the door in the morning or to go to bed at night.
I knew I was doing the best I could, but it was hurting them emotionally. I also knew that I was teaching my children this behavior and I didn’t like it, I wanted to stop, but just didn’t know how!
Many days I walked to my office, head hung low in shame, heartbroken and a pit in my stomach, but with every step, I would have to stuff it away because I couldn’t let those feelings take me over. I had clients to see, meetings to run, projects to pitch, budgets to approve and employees who needed me. I had to put on the happy face mask to get I the day, but those feelings of shame didn’t go away, they were just repressed and came out later in different ways, usually with more yelling.
Some mornings I would get to work feeling like I had already put in a full day – getting out the door each day was so draining I wasn’t sure how I was going to put in another 8 hours!
I kept saying to myself that this was not how I wanted to show up – this was not how I wanted to be a mom or even a human being. I didn’t want to ‘lose my sh#t’ and yell. And I knew it was coming at a cost – a very high cost.
I knew by the look on my children’s face that they were scared when I yelled – it did not make them feel good or safe. And when they yelled and screamed in the same way, I knew I had taught them that, and that made me feel even more ashamed and angry at myself. The suffering grew, and the cycle continued.
I had read some parenting books, even taken a few webinars about yelling but nothing was working. I tried to breath, count, walk away and also learned to let some things go but nothing was stopping my anger – that is until I understood what my temper and yelling were about, and that changed everything!
I am more able to respond to my children’s needs, create and hold boundaries, offer myself self-care and compassion, be more present and mindful, and most importantly, feel genuinely connected with my children.
I no longer need to yell to get them to listen, and the frustration and disappointment I used to feel, has been replaced with joy and connection. I also understand my shame much more, I see it’s source, and it doesn’t have the hold on me anymore.
And when I do raise my voice, yes, I am human, I know that it’s an invitation to look within, offer myself compassion, and to deconstruct the situation because I know that yelling is a message that something is off balance and needs attention.
And when my children yell, I can hold space for them, help them process their emotions and more importantly, look behind the behavior and tune into their real needs, because I know that their outburst is just a symptom of an unmet need.
And this new way of parenting has allowed me to respond to my children from my intuition, inner wisdom and authentic self, rather than from that reactive, volatile and combative part of me called my ego or false self. What freedom that has brought into my life! Parenting from a conscious and calm place brings so much more joy and connection into the relationship and life!
And now I want to help you achieve the same success! Why?
Nothing would bring me more joy than to see YOU tap into your authentic self and parent feeling more calm, confident, connected, grounded and playful. I want to help YOU be the mom you always dreamed you could be – not the ‘perfect parent’ (because that doesn’t exist) but the mom YOU want to be, and the mom YOUR kids need you to be.
Where YOU can…
…feel calm and relaxed as you get out the door each morning
…feel in your power and confident in your parenting
…engage with your child in a way that they listen to you
…parent with fewer power struggles and battles and more attunement
…have more laughter and playfulness in your home
…have less conflict and more connection with your children
…feel this not only with your children but with your partner, employees, and clients at the office.
You can develop the skills and capabilities to parent this way – it’s possible, and that’s why I created the Transformational Group Coaching Mastermind Program From Chaos to Calm & Confidence!
What Experts Are Saying
“Nicki has created a wonderful series of interventions based on my books The Conscious Parent and Out of Control. Her strategies are easy to follow, direct and effective. They are a valuable addition to those who wish to delve deeper into the art and philosophy of conscious parenting.”
– Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Oprah’s go-to parenting expert, internationally acclaimed Psychologist and author of “The Conscious Parent,” “Out of Control” and “The Awakened Family”
What can you expect during the From Chaos to Calm & Confidence Transformation Tribe?
During this incredible 6-month group coaching program you’ll experience significant shifts in the way you see yourself as a parent, and even how you look at your children. You’ll transform the yelling and chaos in your home into calmer and more connected energy in ways you never knew possible. You’ll feel more confident with the morning and bedtime routines as well how to handle challenging topics like homework and screen time.
My clients work with me because of my passion, energy, and compassion. They see that I have transformed my parenting and they want to do the same. Working with me is the best investment they have ever made for their emotional well-being, and their children’s. The moms that work with me discover and manifest a new way of being they didn’t know they could access.
The fundamental teachings of the program are:
What Yelling Really Is
Yelling is a symptom of underlying factors that are out of alignment. You’ll learn to see screaming and chaos in your home as a message that something needs to be attended to and nurtured. This is a crucial teaching because it will help you shift your belief of yelling from being shameful to an invitation to do some inner work and make some external changes, and this is how we end that shame.
Learning to Respond
You’ll develop a new way to engage with your children that will be more responsive rather than reactive. You’ll leave behind the old ways of blaming, power struggles, getting triggered and feeling helpless. You’ll see how these old ways were just adding fuel to the fire and not serving you or your children.
Creating and Holding Boundaries
You’ll have a clear idea of what your family values are, and then be able to create boundaries that are supportive and aligned with that. You’ll also understand why we often sabotage our rules and you’ll learn how to hold them when things get challenging.
The famous saying, “You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge” (was that Dr. Phil?) couldn’t be more relevant to parenting. Most of us parent from false beliefs, unconscious expectations and unmet needs that end up sabotaging our parenting. Once you start to see these beliefs and unconscious expectations, you’ll understand how they’re getting in your way, and even backfiring on you. Peeling back the layers of your limiting beliefs will help you get in touch with your authentic self and the power that lies within.
Self-care and compassion
As moms, we take care of everyone else but ourselves, and that often leaves us feeling drained, neglected and resentful. You’ll see how self-care is essential to thriving in your parenting as well as your business, and you’ll learn a variety of ways to do this, and this isn’t about bubble baths and wine (although that can be fun too!).
How to Connect with Your Children
If I were to ask you what connecting with your child means, you’d likely give me a list of activities or things that you do with your child, such as going to the movies, playing games, going to the beach, or reading a story together. You’ll learn that connection isn’t about doing, it’s about being, and there’s a big difference. With this knowledge, you’ll experience another level of relationship with your child that will bring you both joy.
These are just a few of the topics that we’ll cover in the program, and there’s so much more!
In the 6-month Transformation Tribe From Chaos to Calm & Confidence you’ll get:
- 12 recorded video teachings that you can watch at your convenience
- PDF documents and other teaching materials you can access anytime you need them
- 12 practices that support the challenging routines such as the getting out the door in the morning, after school/dinner period, and bedtime. We will be focusing on specific exercises to help you bring calmer energy and flow into these transition times. These practices will be part of your day and not require any additional time – they will be part of things you do already because I know you are a busy mom!
- Support material for each practice
- Journaling exercises that will help you integrate and expand your awareness to help you make the mental and physical shift you need to bring more calm into your home
Group support and accountability
- A private and exclusive Facebook group to connect you with other professional and entrepreneurial moms who are also on this journey. This group is loving, compassionate and will make you feel welcome, supported and is an integral part of the process to end the shame of yelling.
- Additional teachings through impromptu Facebook live videos
- Further access to Nicki by posting your questions in the Facebook group
- Personal networking and accountability opportunities. Who knows, you may even make some business connections!
- 12 private individual check-in calls that will help you stay on track and that will address your situation
- 12 live group Q&A sessions where you’ll receive 1:1 coaching with Nicki to answer your questions
- E-mail support during the week to support you and help you navigate challenging situations
Plus these bonuses
- Bonus material and wisdom teachings
- Suggested reading list
- Lifetime access to a private members site where all live training and Q&A calls are available for 24/7 access!
What Parents Are Saying
Praise for my book
But that’s not all! You’ll also receive these amazing bonuses!
- A free copy of my ebook Unlock Your Parenting Potential: The Key to More Joy, Peace, and Connection
You’ll receive a copy of my best selling book which offers valuable lessons and teachings to support your transformation. In my book, I share real examples from working with my clients and so offer a personal glimpse into my struggles with parenting.
Bonus #2 (coming soon!)
- Free access to the webinar Responding to Temper Tantrums
This webinar contains valuable information about temper tantrums, what they are and how best to respond to them. Most parents judge their child tantrums as being manipulative to get what they want, and in this webinar, I will dispel this myth and show you what is going on!
What happens after you register?
After you sign up for the From Chaos to Calm & Confidence, you’ll be sent a confirmation e-mail with full details about how to access the private membership site where you’ll find all the videos, coaching practices, and bonus material. You’ll also be invited to join the Private Facebook group where you can meet all the other moms who are on this journey with you.
You’ll also receive information about how to schedule your private one-on-one calls with Nicki as well as the full schedule of Live Q&A calls and other teachings that are happening.
You’ll take care of your needs!
What Makes this Program Different?
From Chaos to Calm & Confidence is no ordinary coaching program – in fact, it’s one of a kind!
It’s a transformational deep dive into how to bring more calm and confidence into your home, end the shame of yelling, and learn to tap into your authentic self!
It will not only help you with the external challenges, like getting out the door each morning without yelling but goes much deeper into the internal facets of why you yell to help you tap into your authentic self. You see, this program works on two levels: the exterior level by giving you practical tools and strategies to deal with the daily struggles you face. It also works with you on the internal level to help you peel back the false beliefs, attachment to ego, unmet needs and most importantly, end the shame of yelling. It is here that the transformation happens and that is why this program is so unique and powerful.
All the ‘stop yelling’ programs that are available only deal with the external factors and promote things like ’30 day no yelling challenges’ and other ‘tips’ to help you stop yelling but they never look at or address the real internal factors that are causing the yelling in the first place.
If you don’t do the deep transformation work you might be able to have a calm home for a few weeks or maybe months, but eventually, you’ll yell – I don’t need a crystal ball to tell you that! No matter how much ‘changing this, doing this or not doing that’ you try, you won’t be able to end your yelling. And it’s not about doing, so you’ll never be successful. Instead, it is a new way of being, which is why those other programs will never bring you to the permanent change and transformation you want. From Chaos to Calm & Confident Group Coaching Mastermind gets to the core, the real cause of your yelling and helps you end the shame, and that is what makes it so compelling!
When you join From Chaos to Calm & Confidence, you’ll learn to end the shame and reconnect with the deepest part of yourself, your authentic self.
Once you tap into her you’ll have access to her strength, inner wisdom, and confidence, and that is how you’ll manifest calmer energy in your home, and likely more creativity and passion at work.
Sure, the tools and strategies will support you and will help, but once you have access to that wise, intuitive part of you, you’ll no longer need to rely on external tools.
No matter what is happening on the outside (there will be chaos),
No matter what your children say to you (yes they can be mean sometimes),
And even when you feel overwhelmed and out of control (because that will happen too),
Once you learn to parent from your authentic self, you’ll manifest the way you have always wanted to show up, and this will create the life and business you want.
You’ll feel more confident in holding boundaries.You’ll know how to say ‘no’ and feel more in control.
You’ll be more able to attune to your children and meet their needs.
You’ll be more grounded and calm when making decisions.
And you’ll feel more connected to your children because you’re more connected to your authentic self and that will bring you more peace and calm in all aspects of your life.
My promise to you:
Over the six-month program, you’ll get more than knowledge, information, and teachings. You’ll experience a mind shift and inner transformation that will help you end the shame, tap into your real power and inner wisdom and feel calmer.
You’ll leave this program with an inner transformation that will bring more self-love, and that will ripple out to your family, business, and community.
More calm and confidence is within your reach if:
- You’re tired of yelling and want a new way of being with your children
- You’re ready to let go of false beliefs that are keeping you stuck in the same cycle
- You’re ready to feel calmer, and you know the only way is to do the inner transformation work
- You understand that although your children ‘push your buttons’ it’s you that has to do the work
- You’ve come to realize that trying to control your children is exhausting and you want another way
- You’re open to seeing yelling as a gift, as an invitation to go within and see what needs to be tended to and nurtured
Admit that you’re just not ready yet if:
- You still think that your children that are making you yell. It’s a significant shift to make, and you’ll have to make that shift to benefit fully from this program.
- You won’t make the time. Mom, I can’t do the work for you, I have already done mine, now it’s up to you. Investing in yourself can be the greatest gift, you’re worth it!
- You would rather take the chance that you can stop yelling all on your own. One thing I know for sure is that we all need help making changes – if you could have done it alone, you would have done it already. Join us; this is how change happens – together, supporting one another – it can be truly magical.
- You aren’t sure whether this is the right time. There is no ‘right’ time; the time is now. Procrastination keeps people stuck and in the same pattern, which makes it hard to stop. The longer you wait, the harder it’ll be.
- You feel too ashamed. Shame is a powerful emotion that keeps people trapped in pain and suffering, and I know that because I was ashamed of my yelling too. And sometimes it wasn’t just yelling; sometimes I raged at my children. I know I’m an amazing mom and that I was doing the best I could at the time. Letting go of the shame is an integral part of this program, there is a whole module on it, so you’ll have an opportunity to see that you’re not alone, and feel supported each step of the way and let go of the shame.
You can keep going it alone and…
Be trapped in the pattern of yelling and shame; you want that cycle to end!
You won’t feel confident in your parenting – I know that frustrates you!
You won’t feel connected with your children; you want that, don’t you?
You’ll be stuck in the chaos, and I know, I’ve been there; It’s exhausting!
Or you can put an end to your struggles and join my program where I’ll gently guide you to:
End the shame of yelling and see it a whole new light
Bring more calm and peace to your home for your, and your children’s emotional well-being
Feel more confident in the challenging routines – no more screaming matches to get out the door!
Feel more connected to yourself and your children
Feel more joy and playfulness at home and the office
Tap into your authentic self which will help you shine at home and in your career!
Have questions? We have answers!
How do I access all the materials?
You’ll be given a unique link to a membership site that contains all the material for the program. You’ll have an account name and password unique to you. When you enter the membership site, there will be a welcome video for you that gives you information about layout, where to find things and how to access the material. If at any point you have questions you can send an e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org and someone will get back to you within 48 hours during regular business office hours (Mon. to Fri. 8 am to 4 pm EST).
What can I expect from the program?
This program is truly unique. Not only do you get all the benefits of group coaching (lower price, being with like-minded moms, feeling supported and heard, learning from others experience, watching the videos and content at your convenience) you also get private time with Nicki! You’ll be able to schedule your 1-1 private calls when you’re available, and you also can submit your questions and get 1-1 support during the live Q&A sessions. Nicki will even respond to your questions on Facebook as well as through e-mail. That is a lot of opportunities to have your unique and individual circumstances heard, which is why this is not your typical coaching program.
Is there a payment plan?
Yes, during the discovery call you’ll be given the details of the payments plans that are available.
I have other questions!
No problem, just send me an e-mail at email@example.com, and I’ll answer you as soon as I can.