Do you find yourself yelling at your children to get out the door in the morning?
Not fun is it?
Being a professional working mom adds a whole other set of pressures and expectations that make life more challenging.
Being late for a presentation, budget report or a meeting with your boss is stressful and not how you want to show up at work.
I get it!
I remember many mornings when being late was just not an option yet my children had other ideas. And although I did make it on time, accomplishing that meant a lot of yelling – I mean a lot!
And then as soon as I had dropped them off at school that sinking feeling of “I am a horrible mother” would take over.
But, I had a budget report to submit or a meeting to lead and so I had to stuff those feelings away so I could function.
And the next morning was no better, and the cycle continued!
After making some adjustments in the bedtime and morning routine things quickly turned around.
These are tips that I have used for years and ones that I offer my clients; try them and see how small changes in how you approach the morning routine can make dramatic improvements.
5 tips to get out the door with peace and calm
- Reduce the morning stress and make the lunches (including your own) the night before.
- Assist your children to find their shoes, backpack and other things needed for school/daycare BEFORE the bedtime routine.
- Make sure you are showered, dressed and maybe had your morning beverage BEFORE the kids wake up.
- Plan to leave 15 minutes earlier than you need to, to allow time for last minute issues or tantrums (including your own!)
- Ask them what they need from you to assist them in the morning – you might be surprised at how the little things are a big deal for kids.
The key to a calm and successful morning routine is PREPARATION.
Nothing puts the morning routine off more than trying to take care of your needs AND your children’s at the same time. This is simply a recipe for disaster.
Most children under the age of 12 require some assistance in the morning and the younger they are the more they require.
Children under the age of 4 need almost constant help in the morning, children between the ages of 4 and 8 need a little less help and most kids between the ages of 8 and 12 need minimal support.
Knowing what each child needs is going to help you plan the routine and determine what things you and your child can do the night before.
Talk to your kids about your expectations and be open to what they are telling you their needs are. Sometimes it’s as simple as helping them get dressed or a little cuddle time before heading out the door.
Small things like involving your children in lunch making at night or inviting them to choose and put out their clothes for the next day can make a big difference.
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